That article was such a relief to me too! I don't have that diagnosis, but my dad has been diagnosed with it (and so many other things) in the past few years... and in actuality, I think his most significant issue is that he is depressed. And being diagnosed with something that is pushed so hard as being "preventable" only makes it worse. And pre-diabetic medicine only has made his health WORSE due to side affects.
Anyway, happy your stressed is relieved! And thanks Nicole for sharing this!
I am conflicted on the personals because obviously they are ridiculous but I am also an overly educated, overly tired single person that would appreciate someone doing the work of finding a boyfriend for me.
I just texted my husband in all caps asking if he knows the Harvard magazine has personals, we've been throwing his away all these years like chumps, and sent him a screencap of Nicole's tweet. He just responded "I feel like I threw out a bitcoin thumb drive."
I kind of hate social media rn, so this is a safe space to say/ask— what do all you ladies do when you’re overwhelmed at work? For background, I’m 33 and I’ve been in marketing for almost 15 years, since freshman year of college (seriously, I turned an internship into a full time gig) and I was recently promoted to executive level for the first time in my career. I work in tech, at a startup consulting firm that just got featured by TechCrunch (which was so exciting I fell out). I love it here, I love this job and my team, I’m just feeling a little overwhelmed. I communicated that to my boss yesterday (with whom I enjoy a great relationship) and he was supportive but definitely questioned what was on my plate a little bit (before going on a well deserved vacation). Basically my question is, what do y’all do to manage burnout? Any advice? Even if it’s just to say, yeah no shit, being successful is amazing and sometimes sucks so take time for yourself, etc. (intellectually I know that— doing it is another story! My fit of rage this AM was to splurge and make some doctor appointments I’ve been putting off. Very rebellious lol. Love to all
Dr's appts are huge, but can you actually take a vacation? (Congrats on the promotion!) Like literally schedule one for next week even if it's by yourself on a beach/cabin somewhere or home on the couch with your phone off? It ALWAYS seems harder than it is, but as I like to remind everyone I have ever worked with (I have never worked in medicine, natch) we aren't saving lives! It can be liberating (but also lousy) to realize that it will absolutely go on without you for a bit. A good refresher.
I should probably qualify this though with the fact that I am TERRIBLE at this myself. I now work for myself and taking a break or a vacation, at the risk of having to say no to a client is almost impossible for me to do, but also super rewarding when I manage to make it happen. I wish you so much luck!
OMG, heart you for taking the time too do this. I know exactly what you mean. I did have a moment last week where I booked vacation out through October, I should've mentioned that; I am taking 7/4-7/8 so that will be super helpful.
It's so funny -- I love that you had to qualify it (you didn't, but I see you there) and that your way of qualifying it was to say like, oh yeah, game recognizes game, do as I say and not as I do. it's a crazy balance right? thank you for the support! <3
I got an executive level promo in October and it has been a mix of great and stressful which I guess makes sense. I’ve realized I got here by being really good at doing all the things but I’m going to stay here by being sure all the things get done well - just not necessarily by me which gives me some anxiety but coaching people (I have a team of 9) is part of my gig so I can’t do that part of being a leader if I don’t delegate. I also take all my vacation because it is mine and I will fucking take it
So I work in nonprofits where it's rarely possible, but in an exec position at a consulting firm (even startup) can you get some more direct report FTEs? Delegation and help project managing is the first step to triaging work burnout, especially when you love what you do.
So insightful. yes. We just had a new FTE start yesterday, and frankly need at least one more, for whom we're recruiting. Hearing someone objective say "help project managing" is helpful; my boss' reaction yesterday was basically that he needed more visibility into my workload, which is fair (but it was how he delivered it that I was thrown by, in fairness to me too).
I'm realizing as I type this, I've started to solve some of this for myself but am finding my patience wearing thin at all the pieces coming into place, y'know? Thank you for the reminders, and for the support.
Hannah, congrats on the promotion! Seriously, thank you. I've suffered from imposter syndrome my whole career, I've been consistently promoted since I was young, and thankfully this role has actually helped me square some of that. But it's cropping up in other ways, I.e. is what I'm trying to do really a priority? wait, if I think it is, then it probably is - I can be open to input, but I shouldn't start second guessing what I've decided to prioritize, or the pace that I'm working at. I'm just constantly worried about being wrong and thus, being unworthy of love, status, etc. (I've been working on this in therapy, or I wouldn't even have the words to express this)
So thank you SO much for taking the time to write this, and for the reminder to be kind to myself. That's where it gets hard, because of course we all hold ourselves to absurd standards. so thanks again for the reminder I'm not alone out there in that :)
what is the goal for the aloof silent giant superdogs? are they gonna have jobs?
also I've had a prediabetes diagnosis for at least 12 years, have gained and lost a bunch of weight several times, and have not grown into diabetes itself somehow. (Mind, I have been on the Rx medication of which the article is skeptical. But I was definitely not 100% compliant back in college, so...)
It’s tart and sweet (not overly so) and slightly bitter from the peel. I usually have a bottle of the stuff in my fridge in the warmer months. For those who prefer lemon, of course the same method works for lemon cordial!
I bought some Simply Limeade for the first time in forever yesterday and it was WORTH drinking all that sugar! Almost made up for living in Orlando in the dang summertime.
My boyfriend got "diagnosed" with prediabetes two years ago, and was given a pamphlet which instructed him to basically eat like he was already diabetic.
I have spent the last year STRESSED OUT after a 'prediabetes' (barely) diagnosis. Thank you for sharing the Science article. I feel 100% lighter.
all of God's children are "pre-diabetic"
That article was such a relief to me too! I don't have that diagnosis, but my dad has been diagnosed with it (and so many other things) in the past few years... and in actuality, I think his most significant issue is that he is depressed. And being diagnosed with something that is pushed so hard as being "preventable" only makes it worse. And pre-diabetic medicine only has made his health WORSE due to side affects.
Anyway, happy your stressed is relieved! And thanks Nicole for sharing this!
Yes, the stress caused by the diagnosis is worse for a person than the diagnosis itself, it seems like!
Best wishes and health to your dad!
Oops, Leslie Gore, it's the law that we now go out and watch First Wives Club.
Did I miss Hootie get...hot? (Also, Love on Top is also my favorite Beyonce song, and adorably, my big tough brother's as well.)
SANSAAAAA!
The babe.com people got matching tattoos? You know what Ask a Manager would say about that.
I am conflicted on the personals because obviously they are ridiculous but I am also an overly educated, overly tired single person that would appreciate someone doing the work of finding a boyfriend for me.
I just texted my husband in all caps asking if he knows the Harvard magazine has personals, we've been throwing his away all these years like chumps, and sent him a screencap of Nicole's tweet. He just responded "I feel like I threw out a bitcoin thumb drive."
I kind of hate social media rn, so this is a safe space to say/ask— what do all you ladies do when you’re overwhelmed at work? For background, I’m 33 and I’ve been in marketing for almost 15 years, since freshman year of college (seriously, I turned an internship into a full time gig) and I was recently promoted to executive level for the first time in my career. I work in tech, at a startup consulting firm that just got featured by TechCrunch (which was so exciting I fell out). I love it here, I love this job and my team, I’m just feeling a little overwhelmed. I communicated that to my boss yesterday (with whom I enjoy a great relationship) and he was supportive but definitely questioned what was on my plate a little bit (before going on a well deserved vacation). Basically my question is, what do y’all do to manage burnout? Any advice? Even if it’s just to say, yeah no shit, being successful is amazing and sometimes sucks so take time for yourself, etc. (intellectually I know that— doing it is another story! My fit of rage this AM was to splurge and make some doctor appointments I’ve been putting off. Very rebellious lol. Love to all
Dr's appts are huge, but can you actually take a vacation? (Congrats on the promotion!) Like literally schedule one for next week even if it's by yourself on a beach/cabin somewhere or home on the couch with your phone off? It ALWAYS seems harder than it is, but as I like to remind everyone I have ever worked with (I have never worked in medicine, natch) we aren't saving lives! It can be liberating (but also lousy) to realize that it will absolutely go on without you for a bit. A good refresher.
I should probably qualify this though with the fact that I am TERRIBLE at this myself. I now work for myself and taking a break or a vacation, at the risk of having to say no to a client is almost impossible for me to do, but also super rewarding when I manage to make it happen. I wish you so much luck!
OMG, heart you for taking the time too do this. I know exactly what you mean. I did have a moment last week where I booked vacation out through October, I should've mentioned that; I am taking 7/4-7/8 so that will be super helpful.
It's so funny -- I love that you had to qualify it (you didn't, but I see you there) and that your way of qualifying it was to say like, oh yeah, game recognizes game, do as I say and not as I do. it's a crazy balance right? thank you for the support! <3
I got an executive level promo in October and it has been a mix of great and stressful which I guess makes sense. I’ve realized I got here by being really good at doing all the things but I’m going to stay here by being sure all the things get done well - just not necessarily by me which gives me some anxiety but coaching people (I have a team of 9) is part of my gig so I can’t do that part of being a leader if I don’t delegate. I also take all my vacation because it is mine and I will fucking take it
So I work in nonprofits where it's rarely possible, but in an exec position at a consulting firm (even startup) can you get some more direct report FTEs? Delegation and help project managing is the first step to triaging work burnout, especially when you love what you do.
So insightful. yes. We just had a new FTE start yesterday, and frankly need at least one more, for whom we're recruiting. Hearing someone objective say "help project managing" is helpful; my boss' reaction yesterday was basically that he needed more visibility into my workload, which is fair (but it was how he delivered it that I was thrown by, in fairness to me too).
I'm realizing as I type this, I've started to solve some of this for myself but am finding my patience wearing thin at all the pieces coming into place, y'know? Thank you for the reminders, and for the support.
Hannah, congrats on the promotion! Seriously, thank you. I've suffered from imposter syndrome my whole career, I've been consistently promoted since I was young, and thankfully this role has actually helped me square some of that. But it's cropping up in other ways, I.e. is what I'm trying to do really a priority? wait, if I think it is, then it probably is - I can be open to input, but I shouldn't start second guessing what I've decided to prioritize, or the pace that I'm working at. I'm just constantly worried about being wrong and thus, being unworthy of love, status, etc. (I've been working on this in therapy, or I wouldn't even have the words to express this)
So thank you SO much for taking the time to write this, and for the reminder to be kind to myself. That's where it gets hard, because of course we all hold ourselves to absurd standards. so thanks again for the reminder I'm not alone out there in that :)
I'm proud of Ravelry for taking this stand, although it's been a very, VERY long time coming.
what is the goal for the aloof silent giant superdogs? are they gonna have jobs?
also I've had a prediabetes diagnosis for at least 12 years, have gained and lost a bunch of weight several times, and have not grown into diabetes itself somehow. (Mind, I have been on the Rx medication of which the article is skeptical. But I was definitely not 100% compliant back in college, so...)
I was thinking the same re: doggos! My best guess is that the chill-aloofness is maybe for someone who wants a rugged hiking buddy dog?
My absolute favorite limeade is sparkling water with this cordial added to taste: https://tmagazine.blogs.nytimes.com/2011/05/02/case-study-building-a-better-mixer/
It’s tart and sweet (not overly so) and slightly bitter from the peel. I usually have a bottle of the stuff in my fridge in the warmer months. For those who prefer lemon, of course the same method works for lemon cordial!
Whole lime blended limeade is the only good limeade. Fight me https://www.laylita.com/recipes/limonada-lemonade-or-limeade/
between this and your other comment, I have decided I love you and your husband -- carry on
I bought some Simply Limeade for the first time in forever yesterday and it was WORTH drinking all that sugar! Almost made up for living in Orlando in the dang summertime.
Obviously there are more important things to focus on in this letter but THE KEY CHANGES IN LOVE ON TOP YES EXACTLY. And when she does them LIVE?!
My boyfriend got "diagnosed" with prediabetes two years ago, and was given a pamphlet which instructed him to basically eat like he was already diabetic.
Limeade from Sweet Lake Biscuits in SLC. And also all there food.