I’m going on my family trip to NYC now! I am probably already awake too early, because I never sleep well before flights where I also have to control a child.
Do you have a long weekend? Today is no school bc of parent-teacher conferences and on Monday my kids’ school celebrates Indigenous Peoples’ Day, so it’s a very very long weekend ‘round these parts.
On Saturday I'm going to become a parent for the first time via delivering my twin girls! I'm staying in the hospital being monitored for now but C-section is scheduled Sat morning. I'm pretty terrified so if anyone has positive stories about the process or tips for going through it or taking care of newborn twins that would be great!
This week I went public with my Jeopardy! news (that I’ll be on the show 10/18), and the anxiety and impostor syndrome have been no joke! But today I’m having trouble not dissociating bc my biological dad is coming to visit this weekend. We have only seen each other twice in the last 10 years, and he’s never met one of my kids. My parents were divorced, but both involved when I was growing up. We had a good relationship, but he remarried, moved, and adopted young kids and didn’t really have time for us beyond a distant cordial relationship. It’s been hard because I lost my mom to cancer 8 years ago. Thankfully I have some surrogate parents who have been more there for us. And I’m grateful for therapy! Anyway, I am sure it’ll be awkward and though I feel healthy overall about what our relationship is, I always feel uncomfortable with house guests and feeling like we aren’t entertaining enough to hold his attention. So hopefully I can feel chill and content, despite the stress.
I've been at my mom's for a week and a half now, trying to keep my 7yo up on her schoolwork. My stepfather is in renal failure and had the beginnings of the uremic frost yesterday, so he's not expected to last more than 24-48 hours. It's beyond stressful, I have many complicated feelings, and the longer I'm here the more and more I'm letting my real life lie fallow. My dog is going to think she's been abandoned at the kennel. My cats are hiding from everyone who comes over, and one locked himself in my daughter's room for at least a couple days and had to relieve himself in there. I'm racking up charges at airlines and hotels trying to get the rest of my family here, and I just want to cry forever. Sorry for bumming everyone out.
I don't get Monday as a holiday, but I'm taking it off to go to Atlanta Pride! 🏳️🌈🏳️🌈 I'm super excited to get a boost of warm weather, check out the enormous aquarium, and see how they do a Dyke March down south!
My girlfriend and I are going apple picking tomorrow, I'm hosting a pumpkin carving party on Sunday, and then maybe a hike Monday? So a good, very gay New England weekend.
I’m going to my cousins wedding, which should be fun but is the first big family thing since my dad died unexpectedly six weeks ago, and I’m not feeling super up to handling it/trying to present as though my life isn’t total shameful depressed chaos... wish me luck y’all, and if anyone has any tips for surviving this aftermath time I could use em!
My partner and I are attending a friend's wedding in Boston this weekend. I bought a gorgeous new dress, but my favorite is the pair of shoes that go with it! https://bit.ly/2oouJ07
I have an unexpected long weekend because my dad had a stroke last night, and I called out of work today. He seems ok, he's talking but tired and weak, and the doctors are saying to expect a week long hospital stay and 2 weeks of rehab. He's on the opposite coast and my mom is doing all the work of being wth him and keeping him company and updating family right now. I'm waiting to hear from her if she wants me to fly out to help.
Good vibes and prayers from the kind people of the internet would be much appreciated <3
Going to a black tie wedding at the Saint Louis Art Museum with my partner and it's gonna be fancy AF. Feeling a little insecure about rocking my (pretty gay) haircut with a gown, simply for lack of experience. But it'll be great!
Weekend plans are to lay low and prep my life because I'm having weight loss surgery on Monday. YIKES. Still struggling with how to talk with my kids about it without giving them food and body issues like I had when I was a kid, when my mom was CONSTANTLY on some weird diet. If anyone has been through something like this while parenting (included in the mix is my tween daughter!) I'd love to hear other perspectives. I think we've done a pretty good job of body positivity thus far in our home, but I don't know how to navigate "mom's getting her stomach cut out so she can be skinny" thoughts that might occur and do damage. I may also be overthinking this aspect of it.
looking forward to a very cozy weekend with lots of good friend time. also trying to figure out how to stay excited about dating after another first date this week where the dude talked 90% of the time and asked me literally nothing about myself (he thought it went great, lol). argh. any good vibes would be much appreciated!
No long weekend where I am, but I did take some cheeky time out of my Friday to bring our 1yo spaniel/bassett cross to a "Blessing of the dogs" at my 12yo daughter's school. Our dog is agnostic, but always happy to hang out with lots of other cute dogs, and it was a lovely event. (Yes, a spaniel/bassett cross is as hilarious-looking as you are imagining).
Our older dog is an out and out atheist who wouldn't deign to attend such an event. The facts that (a) he gets really reactive when he's on the leash around other dogs and (b) he is currently nursing a bandaged paw and wearing the cone of shame have no bearing on his decision not to attend, obviously.
Today is my best friend’s birthday- she died 6 years ago, and I remember her my visiting the tree her family planted on campus for her. It’s as close as my atheist self gets to a pilgrimage.
Here's my question of the day. At least monthly I think of the article you posted about glitter and am desperately waiting to see if you ever found out what the super secret glitter-using-field-who-shall-not-be-named was???????
Saaaaame about the sleep before flights. We are headed out of town as well, down to Hilton Head for a family thing. I’m feeling ambivalent about it. And desperately hoping our youngest is better-behaved on the plane at 2.5 than she was in July on a truly horrible flight home from London. Fingers crossed for all of us!
My company is expecting layoffs this month and with the rumor mill going around it's hard to not get in a funk and then a panic and then a funk. I also spent so much of the summer doing weddings and family stuff so whenever I was home it was for laundry and getting my act together. This weekend I'm going to go to the museum and the park and make a big meal and do all the "for me" things that aren't a total blow-out (considering I may not have a job soon!) but do feel a little special.
I am at the airport to go to the lynching museum with my best friend forever and I started divinity school last week and so I am overwhelmed with feelings and I am an enneagram 8 so I am overwhelmed with feelings when I have even one feeling.
After a third date, me and this guy agreed there was not enough chemistry, though he said he’s attracted to me physically. Just no emotional connection.
It was surprisingly mutual. And I don’t usually think of myself as a snack, but he did, so I guess that’s something. Dating still sucks, but I guess it doesn’t always have to end in drama and tears.
My magazine [not MINE but I am poetry editor] Philadelphia Stories is hosting a writing conference, Push to Publish. I do very little but talk to friends and explain submission guidelines to friendly writers. It's a fun--but long--day.
I'm heading to New Orleans and Atanta for the week. Never been to Atlanta, anyone have good recommendations for food/drinks and must visit attractions?
I'm going to California with my husband to celebrate our 1 year wedding anniversary on Saturday. Everywhere we've planned to go will most likely be threatened with power shutoff. As inconvenient and uncertain as it is for us, we can only imagine how terrifying and frustrating this has to be for residents.
We're in NYC this month with our toddler and baby, and aside from a mostly inaccessible subway system and terrible sidewalks, the most stressful thing is trying to keep the baby from screeching all hours of the day and night. Thin walls, and all that. But we do love the weather and playground life.
Just a regular weekend here. I got the flu two weeks ago (before the shot was available) and then a secondary infection (woo!) but the antibiotic I got yesterday has already started to work, so I’m hoping to have a productive weekend. I moved a few weeks ago but got sick right after and am only half-unpacked. I’d love to be able to finish that.
I'm going to see Dane Cook on Saturday night. I know, he can be the woooorst. But my friend loves him and her husband is out of town and she seems lonely lately so I am taking one for the friendship team.
We've had a few former employees or their family members pass away recently and while its definitely sad and tragic my one coworker is SO performative about it and it just drives me crazy. When our manager sent out an email letting us know about one of them she reacted so loudly at her desk, like she wanted people to ask her what she was reading so she could tell them. And we were informed of another today on our team meeting (at her urging) and then after, when everyone else had hung up, even though our manager made clear we don't want people knowing the details, this coworker wheedled it out of her. I know I probably lean more on the side of being, if anything, TOO internal with that sort of thing, but being so over the top about it just feels so inappropriate to me, especially at work.
I'm going to see Parasite this weekend! AND! Two of my best friends are coming to visit next weekend because it's my fall break (grad school) but we only get Thurs/Fri off and I need to work Thurs, so they're coming to me. Going to be doing all the nice town stuff I don't get to do when stressing over classes~
It’s not a long weekend for me but I am very much looking forward to it! Sat night I’m going across the bay for dinner & a play with a friend and then I’ll crash at another friends place who lives over there. Sunday we’ll go to my favorite yoga class which is incredibly intense and leaves me feeling so relaxed after and so sore the next few days! Obviously after yoga we will go eat a food coma inducing amount of food, so basically a perfect day.
Incredibly jealous of everyone in NYC this weekend-I have been missing it so much lately. Eat all the bagels for me please!
A friend's divorce court date is Tuesday (after the holiday) so we're going to hang out this weekend so she's not freaking out. Other than that, SLEEP.
It's Thanksgiving here on Monday, so we have a three day weekend. I love that some schools celebrate Indigenous Peoples' Day, that's so great! As a Canadian, we never had Columbus Day, and it always seemed so weird that it was a thing.
My husband is the only one with a long weekend. The kids all have school and I have work. The weekend finally feels a little more like fall and we have kids sports and maybe we will go for a hike or something in the nice weather. I love when my husband has random days off I don’t because he usually makes something excellent for dinner or bakes!
Also having a 4 day weekend due to a flex schedule and Monday’s federal holiday. Finally going to my TSA Pre-check interview today and then my husband and I can’t decided If we should spend our fuck off find this weekend on seeing a community opera, the Korean spa or an Ibiza DJ at a club lol
Canadian Thanksgiving, and just generally enjoying some time in the Gulf Islands (while reading your suggested New Yorker article about the Big One which just seems self-punishing).
On the one hand I had a good doctor visit where everything was great. On the other hand, I was in a multi-car accident on the way BACK from the doctor. On the one hand, I wasn't injured and the car is driveable. On the other hand, waiting for the insurance companies and knowing it's going to be a cluster because of all the people involved. On the one hand, I got my creative portfolio and such moved to my new name. On the other hand, I'm wondering what this is going to cost me and dealing with the hassle of getting the car fixed. In short, life is a land of contrasts.
Now that I live somewhere with an awesome library system and also that I'm not commuting 1hr each direction... I have to get rid of my audible subscription but I still have 2 credits left
Any recommendations for books that were particularly good to listen to?
(Recent listens: King of Scars by Leigh Bardugo, The immortalists, Little Fires Everywhere, Dune)
All I want to do this weekend is read Sarah Bessey's new book. It came last night and I'm already halfway through and I want to savor her beautiful story and writing but I can't put it down.
I'm going to see Joe Hill speak tonight, which should be fun! And then I have to work both tomorrow and Sunday, but at least that gives me all of next week off!
No holiday where I live, but it‘s mid-fall break so my son is still at scout camp (yay!) and spouse and I are enroute to a wee country hotel where we will reunite with some old friends from his grad school days, go for long sunny walks in the autumn landscape, and drink lots of wine.
On Saturday I'm going to become a parent for the first time via delivering my twin girls! I'm staying in the hospital being monitored for now but C-section is scheduled Sat morning. I'm pretty terrified so if anyone has positive stories about the process or tips for going through it or taking care of newborn twins that would be great!
I got my jeopardy pictures with Alex! I will air 10/22. I’m so excited.
This week I went public with my Jeopardy! news (that I’ll be on the show 10/18), and the anxiety and impostor syndrome have been no joke! But today I’m having trouble not dissociating bc my biological dad is coming to visit this weekend. We have only seen each other twice in the last 10 years, and he’s never met one of my kids. My parents were divorced, but both involved when I was growing up. We had a good relationship, but he remarried, moved, and adopted young kids and didn’t really have time for us beyond a distant cordial relationship. It’s been hard because I lost my mom to cancer 8 years ago. Thankfully I have some surrogate parents who have been more there for us. And I’m grateful for therapy! Anyway, I am sure it’ll be awkward and though I feel healthy overall about what our relationship is, I always feel uncomfortable with house guests and feeling like we aren’t entertaining enough to hold his attention. So hopefully I can feel chill and content, despite the stress.
I have a first date tonight and I’m pretty excited about this one - fingers crossed for chemistry!!
I've been at my mom's for a week and a half now, trying to keep my 7yo up on her schoolwork. My stepfather is in renal failure and had the beginnings of the uremic frost yesterday, so he's not expected to last more than 24-48 hours. It's beyond stressful, I have many complicated feelings, and the longer I'm here the more and more I'm letting my real life lie fallow. My dog is going to think she's been abandoned at the kennel. My cats are hiding from everyone who comes over, and one locked himself in my daughter's room for at least a couple days and had to relieve himself in there. I'm racking up charges at airlines and hotels trying to get the rest of my family here, and I just want to cry forever. Sorry for bumming everyone out.
I don't get Monday as a holiday, but I'm taking it off to go to Atlanta Pride! 🏳️🌈🏳️🌈 I'm super excited to get a boost of warm weather, check out the enormous aquarium, and see how they do a Dyke March down south!
My girlfriend and I are going apple picking tomorrow, I'm hosting a pumpkin carving party on Sunday, and then maybe a hike Monday? So a good, very gay New England weekend.
I’m going to my cousins wedding, which should be fun but is the first big family thing since my dad died unexpectedly six weeks ago, and I’m not feeling super up to handling it/trying to present as though my life isn’t total shameful depressed chaos... wish me luck y’all, and if anyone has any tips for surviving this aftermath time I could use em!
I am taking my PUPPY to the PUMPKIN PATCH and CORN MAZE, I hope she will not be terrified
I'm pretty thrilled because I'm signing books at the bookstore at the Maryland Book Faire this Sunday and I got my husband to wear at kilt!
My partner and I are attending a friend's wedding in Boston this weekend. I bought a gorgeous new dress, but my favorite is the pair of shoes that go with it! https://bit.ly/2oouJ07
I have an unexpected long weekend because my dad had a stroke last night, and I called out of work today. He seems ok, he's talking but tired and weak, and the doctors are saying to expect a week long hospital stay and 2 weeks of rehab. He's on the opposite coast and my mom is doing all the work of being wth him and keeping him company and updating family right now. I'm waiting to hear from her if she wants me to fly out to help.
Good vibes and prayers from the kind people of the internet would be much appreciated <3
I'm going to a Chocolate Walk tomorrow, it's like a pub crawl through a cute small town but with chocolate treats instead of drinks. :)
Going to a black tie wedding at the Saint Louis Art Museum with my partner and it's gonna be fancy AF. Feeling a little insecure about rocking my (pretty gay) haircut with a gown, simply for lack of experience. But it'll be great!
Weekend plans are to lay low and prep my life because I'm having weight loss surgery on Monday. YIKES. Still struggling with how to talk with my kids about it without giving them food and body issues like I had when I was a kid, when my mom was CONSTANTLY on some weird diet. If anyone has been through something like this while parenting (included in the mix is my tween daughter!) I'd love to hear other perspectives. I think we've done a pretty good job of body positivity thus far in our home, but I don't know how to navigate "mom's getting her stomach cut out so she can be skinny" thoughts that might occur and do damage. I may also be overthinking this aspect of it.
looking forward to a very cozy weekend with lots of good friend time. also trying to figure out how to stay excited about dating after another first date this week where the dude talked 90% of the time and asked me literally nothing about myself (he thought it went great, lol). argh. any good vibes would be much appreciated!
No long weekend where I am, but I did take some cheeky time out of my Friday to bring our 1yo spaniel/bassett cross to a "Blessing of the dogs" at my 12yo daughter's school. Our dog is agnostic, but always happy to hang out with lots of other cute dogs, and it was a lovely event. (Yes, a spaniel/bassett cross is as hilarious-looking as you are imagining).
Our older dog is an out and out atheist who wouldn't deign to attend such an event. The facts that (a) he gets really reactive when he's on the leash around other dogs and (b) he is currently nursing a bandaged paw and wearing the cone of shame have no bearing on his decision not to attend, obviously.
Going to a pumpkin lights festival with the fam!
It’s my birthday this weekend & I’ll be spending it by myself. Should I get a cake?
Today is my best friend’s birthday- she died 6 years ago, and I remember her my visiting the tree her family planted on campus for her. It’s as close as my atheist self gets to a pilgrimage.
I am back home in New England for the wedding of my wonderful best friend -- who also happens to be a newsletter fan!
Here's my question of the day. At least monthly I think of the article you posted about glitter and am desperately waiting to see if you ever found out what the super secret glitter-using-field-who-shall-not-be-named was???????
Saaaaame about the sleep before flights. We are headed out of town as well, down to Hilton Head for a family thing. I’m feeling ambivalent about it. And desperately hoping our youngest is better-behaved on the plane at 2.5 than she was in July on a truly horrible flight home from London. Fingers crossed for all of us!
Today I went to Trader Joe's and bought ALL the cozy foods.
My company is expecting layoffs this month and with the rumor mill going around it's hard to not get in a funk and then a panic and then a funk. I also spent so much of the summer doing weddings and family stuff so whenever I was home it was for laundry and getting my act together. This weekend I'm going to go to the museum and the park and make a big meal and do all the "for me" things that aren't a total blow-out (considering I may not have a job soon!) but do feel a little special.
Headed to Montreal for the long weekend (same here re:school). Happy to read recommendations on places to eat!
I am at the airport to go to the lynching museum with my best friend forever and I started divinity school last week and so I am overwhelmed with feelings and I am an enneagram 8 so I am overwhelmed with feelings when I have even one feeling.
After a third date, me and this guy agreed there was not enough chemistry, though he said he’s attracted to me physically. Just no emotional connection.
It was surprisingly mutual. And I don’t usually think of myself as a snack, but he did, so I guess that’s something. Dating still sucks, but I guess it doesn’t always have to end in drama and tears.
My magazine [not MINE but I am poetry editor] Philadelphia Stories is hosting a writing conference, Push to Publish. I do very little but talk to friends and explain submission guidelines to friendly writers. It's a fun--but long--day.
I'm heading to New Orleans and Atanta for the week. Never been to Atlanta, anyone have good recommendations for food/drinks and must visit attractions?
I'm going to California with my husband to celebrate our 1 year wedding anniversary on Saturday. Everywhere we've planned to go will most likely be threatened with power shutoff. As inconvenient and uncertain as it is for us, we can only imagine how terrifying and frustrating this has to be for residents.
We're in NYC this month with our toddler and baby, and aside from a mostly inaccessible subway system and terrible sidewalks, the most stressful thing is trying to keep the baby from screeching all hours of the day and night. Thin walls, and all that. But we do love the weather and playground life.
Just a regular weekend here. I got the flu two weeks ago (before the shot was available) and then a secondary infection (woo!) but the antibiotic I got yesterday has already started to work, so I’m hoping to have a productive weekend. I moved a few weeks ago but got sick right after and am only half-unpacked. I’d love to be able to finish that.
Flying with my two month old to see my BFF who had her second child in April. Very excited but whoo boy was packing anxiety inducing.
I'm going to see Dane Cook on Saturday night. I know, he can be the woooorst. But my friend loves him and her husband is out of town and she seems lonely lately so I am taking one for the friendship team.
We've had a few former employees or their family members pass away recently and while its definitely sad and tragic my one coworker is SO performative about it and it just drives me crazy. When our manager sent out an email letting us know about one of them she reacted so loudly at her desk, like she wanted people to ask her what she was reading so she could tell them. And we were informed of another today on our team meeting (at her urging) and then after, when everyone else had hung up, even though our manager made clear we don't want people knowing the details, this coworker wheedled it out of her. I know I probably lean more on the side of being, if anything, TOO internal with that sort of thing, but being so over the top about it just feels so inappropriate to me, especially at work.
I'm going to see Parasite this weekend! AND! Two of my best friends are coming to visit next weekend because it's my fall break (grad school) but we only get Thurs/Fri off and I need to work Thurs, so they're coming to me. Going to be doing all the nice town stuff I don't get to do when stressing over classes~
It’s not a long weekend for me but I am very much looking forward to it! Sat night I’m going across the bay for dinner & a play with a friend and then I’ll crash at another friends place who lives over there. Sunday we’ll go to my favorite yoga class which is incredibly intense and leaves me feeling so relaxed after and so sore the next few days! Obviously after yoga we will go eat a food coma inducing amount of food, so basically a perfect day.
Incredibly jealous of everyone in NYC this weekend-I have been missing it so much lately. Eat all the bagels for me please!
A friend's divorce court date is Tuesday (after the holiday) so we're going to hang out this weekend so she's not freaking out. Other than that, SLEEP.
It's Thanksgiving here on Monday, so we have a three day weekend. I love that some schools celebrate Indigenous Peoples' Day, that's so great! As a Canadian, we never had Columbus Day, and it always seemed so weird that it was a thing.
My husband is the only one with a long weekend. The kids all have school and I have work. The weekend finally feels a little more like fall and we have kids sports and maybe we will go for a hike or something in the nice weather. I love when my husband has random days off I don’t because he usually makes something excellent for dinner or bakes!
i am going kayaking for the first time this weekend! i am so stoked!
Also having a 4 day weekend due to a flex schedule and Monday’s federal holiday. Finally going to my TSA Pre-check interview today and then my husband and I can’t decided If we should spend our fuck off find this weekend on seeing a community opera, the Korean spa or an Ibiza DJ at a club lol
Canadian Thanksgiving, and just generally enjoying some time in the Gulf Islands (while reading your suggested New Yorker article about the Big One which just seems self-punishing).
On the one hand I had a good doctor visit where everything was great. On the other hand, I was in a multi-car accident on the way BACK from the doctor. On the one hand, I wasn't injured and the car is driveable. On the other hand, waiting for the insurance companies and knowing it's going to be a cluster because of all the people involved. On the one hand, I got my creative portfolio and such moved to my new name. On the other hand, I'm wondering what this is going to cost me and dealing with the hassle of getting the car fixed. In short, life is a land of contrasts.
Now that I live somewhere with an awesome library system and also that I'm not commuting 1hr each direction... I have to get rid of my audible subscription but I still have 2 credits left
Any recommendations for books that were particularly good to listen to?
(Recent listens: King of Scars by Leigh Bardugo, The immortalists, Little Fires Everywhere, Dune)
All I want to do this weekend is read Sarah Bessey's new book. It came last night and I'm already halfway through and I want to savor her beautiful story and writing but I can't put it down.
Just read the Prudie question about the guy with the maybe buried money. Fuck ‘im up, Danny!
I'm going to see Joe Hill speak tonight, which should be fun! And then I have to work both tomorrow and Sunday, but at least that gives me all of next week off!
No holiday where I live, but it‘s mid-fall break so my son is still at scout camp (yay!) and spouse and I are enroute to a wee country hotel where we will reunite with some old friends from his grad school days, go for long sunny walks in the autumn landscape, and drink lots of wine.