So, my two major interests recently have been binge-watching (to completion) “You’re the Worst” on FX (it’s also on Hulu, just not the current season) and also listening repeatedly to the same Kate Bush songs over and over again.
I personally feel that this has been a month and a half well-spent, but others may disagree. At any rate, during this time, I did not share weird Reddit things with you NOR did I recommend skin products.
I will now rectify this.
The two best skin products I acquired in the last year are Clinique’s Take The Day Off Cleansing Balm, which is truly the finest makeup remover I have ever used (imagine not waking up with traces of your eye makeup still on??) and Tatcha’s Silk Canvas Primer, which improves the appearance of your skin even before creating the perfect base from which to build your makeup look. I’m sorry about the price, but it really does last forever and is fantastic. There’s a mini version if you want to try it (ask for a sample first!)
WEIRD REDDIT TIME:
I would flip my actual shit:
Ex had a full breakdown but in the end agreed only on the condition she get to take her to "lessen the emotional damage and make sure the doctor doesn't poison her." I demanded the medical forms confirming this and she agreed. So, my daughter finally got vaccinated and last fall started at her awesome new school. Well, last week my daughter got incredibly sick and had to be rushed to the hospital from school. She somehow had contracted varicella (chicken pox) despite being vaccinated for it. I have been stressed out from the minute I got the call and confused as all hell how she got it. My daughter must have picked up on this and thought I was mad at her because when I was visiting her in the hospital she decided to tell me the "secret mommy promised to make her keep".
Turns out my ex didn't vaccinate her. She made my daughter lie about it. Instead she has been using "Special oils and salts to keep her from getting sick." What about the forms I got saying she was vaccinate? There fake. I called the doctor and it turns out she never went in and he never signed any forms confirming she was vaccinated. So my ex lied and faked forms to convince me she was vaccinated.
I have gotten very into r/CasualUK:
A classic Choosing Beggar:
I met a girl online and we clicked, and have gone on a couple dates. Two nights ago was our third date and I was treating her to dinner at a local burger place in the city. Nothing fancy, I just wanted some good conversation over a tasty meal. This girl is a knockout, has the rare quality of being a great listener, and isn't obsessed with herself. She's funny, charming, and smart. We had had several great dates and I was getting close to asking her to be my girlfriend. She is also the one who called me an asshole before the night was done (not her exact words, but we'll get there.)
Our waitress for dinner was great. Actually enthusiastic and friendly, on point with the refills, and just top notch service all around. At one point in the evening she did spill a partially-full glass of water on our table, but it wasn't really her fault because she had gotten bumped into, and she was very quick to apologize and wipe the table dry with a smile on her face, so if anything that was a point in her column.
At the end of the meal, she brought the check and I told her I would like to speak with her manager. She asked if there was something wrong, and I calmly repeated that I would like to speak with her manager and could she please go get him. She leaves and reappears with the manager a few moments later, and I proceed to tell him that we had gotten excellent service that night, and that (her name) was one of their best. He thanked me for the feedback and she also looked very happy at the compliment and thanked me.
The only one not happy was my date. She said, "If that was supposed to impress me, it didn't." and said that I was full of myself. She didn't say much else as we gathered our things to leave and there was no kiss at the door that night. I texted her saying I was sorry for whatever I did wrong and that I'd like to see her again soon, so far no response.
A good update to a sad situation:
It's been a bit over a week since my post here made front page, and it's taken about that much time to finish reading through the responses. You're answers were overwhelmingly positive (save for a few), and today I finally solidified my position and pulled the trigger.
First the good - When I returned home, I searched the box that I had hid the pictures and scrapbook to find that they were gone. Upon inquiring of their whereabouts, I was directed under a bathroom sink. There I found the remains of the scrapbook, mostly put back together. However, I realized that at least 2 pages were missing. I also noticed that a few pictures in question weren't present. Upon questioning, I was directed to a trash can, where I found a couple torn pictures. Still, to my dismay, I found that the contents of the ravaged scrapbook were still incomplete. Further investigation revealed another stash of torn pictures. Finally, I have attained all of the pictures. (Shout out to the private messages offering to reconstruct them. A massive thanks to you!)
Two more days passed and I demanded that she apologize to my daughter for destroying the scrapbook (which now resides in my daughters room). Apology accepted, now comes the hard part.
I wont bother lying to you all, for I fear you would see through me. I considered trying to work through it. I thought, perhaps her efforts to repair the scrapbook are worthy of forgiveness?
NAY!
Seriously guys. I cant thank you enough. If it weren't for your guidance, I would probably continue to expose my daughter to this woman. Our relationship has ended, and I am now focused solely on raising my beautiful baby girl and my career.
Oh, thank God, something actually illegal:
My dad is 64 years old and has worked for a large private university in Virginia for over three years as a director of research and technology. I'm not sure if it matters but his annual income from this job was well into the six figure range.
Last month he was diagnosed with two forms of cancer, which he is currently undergoing treatment for. A week ago, he informed his direct supervisor about his diagnosis, which, in his words prompted a "weird response" from his boss. This morning, he was informed that his position had been eliminated effective immediately, and was told to pack up his effects and exit the building by noon. He has received nothing but excellent performance evaluations from multiple supervisors, with no derogatory marks for his entire time at the university.
His severance package is four months of pay, with no medical benefits other than COBRA. In his health, he's clearly worried that he will not be well enough to look for work for some time. If it matters he is also a disabled veteran. My father is very stoic man, and initially said he doesn't want to seek legal assistance. At the urging of me and other family members, he's now considering it.
From my cursory description of what happened, does he have any legal recourse to seek a lawsuit for:
- Wrongful termination
- Age discrimination
- Protected class discrimination (disabled veteran)
Any advice would be much appreciated. Thank you in advance.
And a bonus from Ask A Manager!
I am…extremely confident this LW is a woman and that Fergus would not have said this to a male manager:
Six years ago, I took a job in a new department. At the time, I only had two years of managing experience and I was eager to not step on the toes of my new four-person team, who had a combined total of 85 years of experience.On my first day and in my first meeting with my employee Fergus, he smirked and opened with, “You should know I have a problem with authority.” To his credit, he was not lying. It’s a nightmare to deal with him but he does just enough to not be let go (we work for the government, it’s harder to get fired).
At the time he told me this, I was so concerned with being liked and learning the ropes in the new department that I tried to approach all interactions with Fergus with that in mind instead of just asking for what I needed. But now I wonder, what would have been a good response? Am I wrong in thinking that the response should have been something that let Fergus know that it indeed was *his* problem and not mine? Or is that just my dislike for my current situation bubbling up?
Love y’all,
N