But first, a Good Dog
I would seriously beat you up, sir:
Me and my girlfriend are moderately overweight. We have been noticing that we were getting fatter still, so I pushed us to try and lose some weight. We now go on walks everyday, we cut the sugar and generally try to eat better and in reasonable quantities. This is being tougher on her because she really enjoys eating until she's full. I'm mainly the one trying to keep us on track and very often I have to call her out when she's sliding back into our old eating habits.
So this last weekend we went to a wedding together as guests. We were sitting next to each other, together with family members from both our families, all in the same table. Every table had its own food so everyone could just serve themselves. So what happened next was I had to watch as my girlfriend filled her plate up with all kinds of delicious food. I kinda gave her a look like that, but she just shrugged it off as if to say "yeah I know, but we're at a wedding". I was slightly annoyed with her behavior but sort of forgot about it and tried to just enjoy everyone's companies. Some time after that, when she was finished, she was out for more. She asked me to pass her this big plate of shrimp rice so that she could try some of that. That really struck me, but I didn't want to argue right there and then, so what I did was get the srino rice and proceed to fill her plate up until it was literally overflowing a little bit.
She just kind of stared at it, then got up and went outside alone. Everyone was staring at me at this point and I thought it was better I just went outside too to talk to her. She told me she was humiliated and that I stepped out of line and they I came off as a controlling jerk.
So, am I the asshole for taking a stand against her completely disregard for our agreed upon diet?
you can’t hassle the bride and groom for not inviting your girlfriend of TWO MONTHS:
A close friend of mine is getting married, and I got my invitation to attend. I didn't get an invitation for my girlfriend, but I just figured she would be included as my guest. When I rang my friend to RSVP for the wedding, he said that my girlfriend couldn't come if she wasn't given an invite. I asked why she wasn't given an invite and he said it was because we hadn't been together long enough for her to be considered an automatic invite.
For context, we have been together for almost 2 months now. It pisses me off because all of my friends will have their partners there. I told him that if my girlfriend isn't good enough for an invite, then neither was I, and said I wouldn't be coming. My friend got quite upset at me for this and told me I was being silly. He said they could try and squeeze her in if it meant so much to me, but I told him to shove it. I don't want her to be thought of as just an afterthought or an inconvenience.
A bunch of my friends are upset with me now. They are upset that I won't be there (we don't get to see each other too often anymore) and that I was potentially burning bridges over something so insignificant. My girlfriend said she is ok with not being able to go, but for me, it's the principal of the matter.
Am I the asshole for standing firm on this?
EDIT: To clarify, for those suggesting otherwise, the couple HAVE met her twice before, and they got on well. Particularly his fiance.
Also, for those saying +1s are only for couples together more than a year, I know for a fact that 2 of my friends who have only been in relationships for around 4-5 months, BOTH got automatic invites for their significant others. Neither of them live together. My relationship apparently falls under some bullshit cutoff timeframe.
EDIT 2: I get it, I'm an asshole. If only the invites came out a month later, because then we would count as a 'real relationship' apparently and she would probably get an invite.
I work in a mainly female industry (modeling). I have a group of friends from my agency who I hang out with backstage and at shows and stuff like that. There’s one girl in my agency who I’ve known for some time, and she came out as trans about a month ago. Meaning she revealed that she was born a male but now identifies as female.
I am not friends with her, but I respect her choices. However I am a Christian, and I have my own personal views on transgenderism.
Yesterday, my agency booked a couple of models, including me and the trans girl, for a 2-day job in another country. She put me and her in the same hotel room. There is only 1 large king bed in the room.
I immediately told my agent that I did not feel comfortable sharing a room with this girl, although we don’t have any disagreements or anything. I just would feel weird staying overnight with her.
My agent got annoyed at me and told me to get over it. Somehow the trans girl got wind of my request to change rooms and is now angry at me. She is now telling people that I am transphobic.
Which I am not! I just feel odd sharing a hotel room/bed with a biological male, especially when I have a boyfriend. My boyfriend supported me and said I should just rent my own separate room, which I plan to do.
However now the trans girl is dragging my name through the mud. AITA for refusing to share a room with her?
EDIT: It is a room with a King bed and a sofa bed. The hotel ran out of other kinds of rooms. I dont think any of us want to sleep on the sofa bed.
Also, I WOULD be okay with sharing a bed and room with another female model. The idea of sharing with a transwoman makes me uncomfortable if I am completely honest. But I don’t think that would make me transphobic.
ah, there’s one in the wild:
To start, the cast of characters is me and my older coworker (late 50s). As background, she is not in the same department as me, but we work on some projects together. In our shared projects, she is technically my subordinate - but I try to view it as a collaboration. We are friendly and laugh together and get along, but we have never had lunch together or see each other outside of work.
Now that the context has been laid out, onto the story. The other day she came to work with a very cool hair style. (She always has cool hairstyles.) The underside of her hair was dyed in a rainbow fashion. As we were passing each other in the hall, we greeted each other and I commented that I liked her hair while casually indicating the colors - but by actually touching her hair. She thanked me and we continued on our way. I didn't think much of it, until another coworker caught me at the end of the hall and told me it was wrong and you aren't supposed to touch a black woman's hair. I didn't know that there was etiquette involved and I feel really bad, especially if she only tolerated the action because I'm more senior. So, was I the asshole?
EDIT: ok. I’m the asshole. But just to clarify some things since a lot of people are reading actions in my post that didn’t happen. I did not stroke, caress, run my fingers through, pull, pet, or yank her hair, as a lot of commenters said I did.
As I was pointing my finger for a brief second (less than a second really) grazed her hair. I can’t say the moment was an accident, but it is not like I was interested in actually touching her hair to feel it. I was pointing at one part of her hair because she had a very intricate hair style and I was pointing at the colored part.
Now, obviously, I need to be in better control and not let myself get that close again as people don’t like it. Although, as I said, she didn’t react to the touch at all and we continued chatting.
Touching other people is probably something I will have to work on in general as I’m a touchy feely person. So, no, in answer to some of you, I don’t mind if people touch me. And they do. When I was pregnant people touched my belly. It didn’t bother me. Oh well. Lesson learned.
My ex and I split ten years ago. Won't get into the details, but I fucked up and the divorce was nasty and long. We don't get along well but we try for the (3) kids. My ex hasn't dated much since the split, while I have had 2 long term girlfriends.
Anyways, as the title says, my ex decided to "come out" to our kids and is now bringing her girlfriend around them. She didn't consult me or warn me of this. Further, she chose to tell the kids she's gay, not bisexual, so I hate to think what the kids are thinking about me and our marriage. I also don't think its even remotely acceptable for a parent to discuss their sexuality with children.
I confronted her via text and all she said was "Don't text me during my parenting time unless it's about scheduling." I sent her another text demanding an explanation for why she didn't ask me how I felt about her doing this, and she didn't answer that or my calls. AITA for this, or is she wrong for dropping this bomb on KIDS?
When we first got divorced our son was 4. He was perfectly healthy and she got primary custody. I asked for a received every other weekend. The court ordered me to pay a set amount of child support a month. I pay it. She carries health insurance and pays for day care. I just pay the court ordered amount that lines up with my income.
About a year ago he started having seizures. Some of them lasted a long time which led to some hospitalizations. That led to a host of appts at specialist and she took a leave from work to deal with it all.
I work erratic hours and go to college so although I visited him at the hospital a few times. I couldn’t make it to the appts.
The medical bills came rolling in and she asked me to help. I don’t have any more money so I told her no. She asked me to watch him sometimes so she could go back to work and make up some hours so she could pay the bills. I told her to get a babysitter. She said she couldn’t afford one. I can’t see him during the week because of my school schedule and work schedule so I told her no. The court order says nothing about medical bills and me having to pay half.
Now she wants to enroll him in some kind of summer camp for kids with epilepsy because she said sending him to a regular daycare is hard since they often don’t know how to deal with his seizures. She asked if I could at least help pay for some of it. Even a small portion. Again, I’ve no money so I said no.
Now she wants to be in a medical trial for the seizures but the doctor won’t let her in unless he can meet with me but he can only meet with me during the week. They are claiming it is because there are overnights involved. I am busy then. I also think the study isn’t necessary. Medicine is controlling them mostly.
I am poor college student. I just don’t have the money. She says I am an asshole for only paying the bare minimum and never helping out more. My argument is that I pay child support as ordered and I take my every other weekend. I do my part. I do what is required. I am not her partner anymore and I don’t think it is my job to help her out.
Hey guys I have a female friend who spends a lot of time at my house like almost everyday she eats here everyday, the thing is I don't live here alone its a company house and on weekends we all have lunch together, anyway she has gone natural full out to not using medics with chemicals to just using natural products , now she has decided to stop shaving her armpits, I find it absoultly gross no offence, its gotten to the point I hate looking at it, but its not my body so I can't make anyone do anything they don't want, today we will be having lunch with some family, the thing is she likes to use shirts with no sleeves I asked her if she could maybe use a t shirt or anything that covers up up her armpits in which she told me to she will not because natural hair is not disgusting so guys who's the a-hole here? Tdlr-female friend refuses to wear t shirt or use clothing that will cover up her hairy armpits at lunch with family